Stuck in a Rut- Kicking Negativity Out the Door

Stuck in a Rut- Kicking Negativity Out the Door

We all have them, those days, those weeks, and sometimes even that month, of what seems to be a revolving door of well, shitiness.

I’ve came to realize there are a lot of things in life I cannot control, but there is one thing I have complete control over and that is my attitude. Recently I’ve been stuck in a sort of rut, while I’ve managed to get more active, take more time for myself and my relationship—I’ve felt a little, blah. I allowed one bad day to turn into a bad week and it was such a waste of energy to allow something else, an outside force to have that much control of my life. After a weekend of reflection I want to help you all kick as much negativity out of your life as you can.

I’ve learned that when life gives you lemons it really is better to at least attempt to make lemonade, than to let your lemons rot. When you allow yourself to be negative and dwell in your negativity it can tend to pour into all other aspects of your life. I realize that when I make comments like, “what’s next”, or “it can’t get any worse”—inevitably, it always does.

Another hard step is separating yourself from negativity and negative influences in your life. Separation does not have to be compared to abandonment, you can distance/separate yourself from someone in a loving way. You work hard to maintain balance in your life, you deserve to have emotional boundaries, and you have the power to deem what is acceptable and what is not. I think it is important that in the cases which you need to distance/separate yourself from someone in your life for these reasons, that it be done so with compassion.

So why do we get caught in these negative routines? Personally, I thought it use to be easier to remain negative, than to repair my attitude, change my mentality and stay positive. It hasn’t been a cake-walk to make a change, I never knew how negative I really was until I started to become more mindful of my thoughts and negative-like reflexes. While it might not have been easy, it has been completely worth it to see the change in the quality of my everyday life.

Kicking as much negativity as you can out of your life is key, stop being so hard on yourself, stop with the negative comments to yourself/others and consciously apply positivity to every aspect of your life that you can.

Here are a couple of steps I take to live a positive life:

  1. Be mindful – being mindful can be defined as being aware. When you are mindful, you are self-aware as well. Be mindful and aware of your thoughts, the things you say and the energy you expend. Mindfulness allows you to train yourself to be more present and positive each day, whether it be when you speak, eat, exercise, think, etc.
  2. Eliminate gossip– Stop with the gossip and speak kindly of others. As much of a cliché as this saying is, “treat others the way you want to be treated”. Don’t allow yourself to gossip to relieve boredom, or to make yourself feel better. Make a commitment to yourself to not gossip, even when the opportunity arises. Put a positive twist on the situation and change the subject, there is no need to apologize for not wanting to take part.
  3. See the glass half full, not half empty. You have the ability to choose whether you get stuck in something negative or to get up and see the positive in the situation. Our lives are a result of our choices, if there is something you do not like in your life, asses what needs to be changed and take those steps to change it.
  4. Let go– If you have pint up anger, resentment or even sadness it is important you deal with these emotions so that they don’t trickle down and affect other aspects of your life, like your happiness. Free yourself from old pain, old situations and losses. You have to let go of any resentment you have within to live freely. While this isn’t always easy either, you can take gradual steps in eliminating experiences and feelings that can hinder you from bettering yourself.
  5. Love yourself– accept who you are, physically, spiritually and emotionally. I have a blog post from a while back that speaks to the positive effects of self-love and the importance of being happy in your own skin. Loving yourself is truly one of the first steps in being happy
  6. Surround yourself with positive, like-minded people. There are always going to be negative people or people who doubt your strengths, it’s simple, screw them. Surround yourself with people who make you feel happy and bring substance to your life.

This post was a long one, but one I feel is necessary.

I hope I can inspire you all to be positive, take control of your life and be the best version of yourself you can be.

Xo. Courtney

 

 

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Self Love.

Self Love.

We all are at one point in our life faced with what feels like an overwhelming amount of chaos.

How you perceive or what you might call chaos is all subject to each individual but my chaos consists of juggling a full time job, a full time college schedule, maintaining a healthy relationship with my boyfriend, keeping up with bills/finances and attempting to have a social life.

What I have noticed lately is there are some really key things that I am missing in my life and that is focusing on myself, focusing on my happiness, my health and my overall wellbeing. The more I have thought about it, the more it occurs to me that everything else in my life will be much less chaotic and stressful if I was taking the time for myself, to love myself and appreciate myself.

Self-love and appreciation can be often confused as merely a feeling toward one’s self, where as I see it as a practice, an ongoing practice and constant thought of appreciating ourselves. A practice that eventually manifests into evert aspect of our lives allowing us to accept love, work and live to our full potential because we believe we deserve it.

Self-love and appreciation have come as a true revelation to me, it is changing me for the better and allowing me to live a fuller life in small steps at a time.

Even a couple months ago if someone would have told me, “stop being so hard on yourself” or “you need to love yourself more” it was immediately followed with an eye roll and a quick topic change. This is really no joke, SELF LOVE is all it is hyped up to be. That is why I encourage you all to begin, if you are not already practicing self-love and appreciation towards yourself and making it an unquestionable aspect of your life.

I am still learning more about myself each day, here are some things I have learned and ways I apply self-love and appreciation to my life.

  1. Be yourself, unapologetically yourself. If that means you don’t fit in who cares, or you lose some friends, do they deserve that relationship anyway? Take this one into consideration. Weeding out negative people in my life or even just separating myself from people who are not growing with me has changed my life for the better.
  2. Remember you are who you surround yourself with, I truly believe you carry the energy of who you hang out with. Pick your tribe, a tribe of people who love you, inspire you and motivate you to be the best version of yourself.
  3. Be mindful, of your thoughts and what you say, especially to yourself. Stop putting yourself down, take a damn compliment and forgive yourself, we are human, we make mistakes!
  4. Take care of yourself, self-care is huge and is one thing that is particularly important in my routine. Eat good foods, get good sleep, work-out or take part in physical activity, and treat yourself occasionally orrrr all the time. It is so important to meet your basic needs, so this needs to become a habit.
  5. Celebrate yourself, your accomplishments and your strengths. If you ACE that test or land a raise at work congratulate yourself, buy yourself a treat or just UP those positive affirmations!
  6. Most importantly, give yourself a break, take a day to yourself and realize that every day is not going to be your best day. Netflix & Chill with yourself or go for a hike and appreciate just how beautiful the world around you is.

I hope these help and that you are able to apply these to your lives. I find inspiration in blog posts daily, I love that we have a platform to share our thoughts and interests. Let me know in the comments how you practice self-love or if you have ever struggled with it before. Also, feel free to leave me any post/topic recommendations, I would LOVE to see what you all want to read.

xo, Courtney.